Waking up this morning, I am bombarded by fear, anger, and sadness about the results of the U.S election. I am not an American citizen, and yet, as an energy worker, an empath, and a citizen of this world, I am feeling the emotions of the collective.
Yesterday, we all sat, in front of our computers, our tv’s, and thought, it can’t possibly be, that someone who is so openly hateful to so many people will be President. It didn’t work for Hitler… why would we choose that again??
And yet, it happened.
And what I can say is that even though we are different, we are being united by a common bond. It doesn’t matter your religion, your beliefs, your gender, your sexuality, your status, all of these things that have separated us in the past, there are millions around the world that are all coming together to say that we don’t like this. That this shadow that has presented itself must be turned into one of light. That we must stand up for our fellow humanity, that we must protect each other from the hate, that we must love one another, and stand together as one.
And for that, I can thank you, Mr. Trump. Your Soul’s energy must be quite a strong one, to be able to bring forth such a shadow, to spew so much hate, and to be the one, who is allowing the rest of us to see that a change must be made. You have brought voice to the many hateful thoughts that so many have had whirling in their heads, and you have given them an open door to get their own shadows out there in the open. For this, I can thank you.
For you have given myself, and all other lightworkers, an open door to step through, to allow our lights to begin to shine in the darkest of places. This is an opportunity for us to see what we can do to help our fellow brothers and sisters, to shine light on our own shadows, so that we can become beacons of light everywhere across the world.
I believe in love. I believe in peace. I believe in hope. I believe in a better future for our children. This will happen.
For all of you reading this, I ask you to find within yourself, a way to bring love to each situation you’re in, from this day forward. I ask you to show compassion to the teenager at the drivethru who got your order wrong; the mom who you believe isn’t doing a good enough job; the one who’s sexuality you don’t understand; the one who is too lazy at work; the one who gets on your nerves; the one who hates so openly…. find love in your heart… spread kindness, show compassion. This is how we will change the world; one act of forgiveness, of kindness, of compassion and understanding at a time.
Let’s unite together to raise the vibrations that are being shook to their core right now.
Imagine this. Your life has been disrupted. You found out you have a disease. Or there was a death in the family. A divorce. Childhood abuse is coming forward as an adult. And you are looking for help. You are vulnerable and afraid. You need someone who will help you work through these emotions, someone who has a strength that you have forgotten you possess; someone you can trust, and tell your fears to. Where do you go? Who do you seek?
This is the first time I have talked about an experience I had last summer on a public forum. I have spoken to girlfriends, and some healer colleagues of mine about my experience, and now I want to share it with you.
On a trip to the grocery store, a man waved at me from his vehicle. I gave a half wave, not recognizing who he was and parked my vehicle. As I walked into the store, he pulled up beside me, and asked if I was married. I replied yes, and he said, yah, I knew it. Can you give me a moment of your time. I have some things from Spirit to share with you.
Being a healer, a psychic, I was kind of excited. I was going to have my own little ‘Theresa Caputo’ moment, a reading from a perfect stranger. I followed him to his car. He was a good looking man~~ dressed in white spiritual garb (flowing clothes) with a rose quartz around his neck. More crystals hung from his sun visor, and he had a guitar in his front seat. He told me he was on his way back home after doing a spiritual retreat.
Claiming that he didn’t have enough room in his own vehicle, he asked if we could move to my vehicle so he could give me a reading. A few alarms went off in my head, but I thought what could possibly go wrong? He is a spiritual man, as I am a spiritual woman.
When we got into my vehicle, he started telling me some personal stuff about my relationship with my husband. He was quite accurate, and I found myself relaxing, thinking ‘this is good’. He then brought up my trust issues. They stem from childhood sexual abuse, and reoccurring patterns that have come into adulthood.
He claimed that the only way for me to trust, would be to touch him in the most intimate place a man has. I paused for a second and then put my hand on his heart chakra. This annoyed him, and he said again, ‘If you want to learn to trust, you MUST touch me in the most intimate place a man has’. He pointed to his crotch. I told him ‘No’. After some more pressure, and my continually saying ‘No’, he asked me ‘Why I didn’t want to move forward through my trust issues’.
I told him if my Guides wanted me to learn my lesson, they would find another way to bring the lesson forward to me. And then asked him to get out of the vehicle. He slammed his fist into the dashboard and got out.
I breathed a sigh of relief… I was safe, and the situation could have been worst than what it was.
Why am I bringing this up?
Because this could have been you. Or anyone, really. And you may not have been strong enough to say no. I know I wasn’t strong enough to walk away when he first approached me. And I know that I am not the first woman to fall prey to a ‘spiritual man’ claiming to be able to ‘heal’ through sexual measures.
This is the dark side of the healer. The one who represents themselves as being able to help others, but only preys on their vulnerabilities. The ones who tell you they will cure your cancer for X amount of dollars. The ones who say that they have gifts that no one else does, and so you must perform XYZ with them, in order to be healed of all of your problems.
While healing energy treatments can play an important role in one’s self care, for physical, spiritual and emotional wellness, it is not the cure. Healing comes from within, and a healer is only there to ‘facilitate the healing’, meaning the energy is flowing through them, into you (through hands-on energy transfer, on a fully clothed body). Everyone has their own healing abilities within them, and therefore, none of us ‘need’ anyone to ‘heal’ us, regardless of what some may claim.
Just as there is a balance of light and dark in the skies, and within ourselves, so too, is there light and dark among the healing world.
A ‘true healer’ will never pressure you to go further than you want to go. They want to help you, in a way that is comfortable to you. They may give you suggestions on healing treatments to try, different ideas to think about, etc. BUT they will leave the ball in your court as to how much they are willing to do. Yes, they will ask to be paid for their time, however, most will work with you if you can’t afford their services. They may also suggest other healers in your area that would be able to help with your issues, to give you more choices.
A ‘dark healer’ will pressure you, even when you get uncomfortable. They may ask for large sums of money to perform healing on you, that they claim, only they can do. They may get angry or berate you if you choose not to go through with their services, or they may pressure you to believe they are the only choice.
If you are looking for a healer, for what ever you are going through, I ask you (perhaps beg you) to follow your heart and your intuition to guide you to the perfect fit for you; to find a healer who is compassionate, understanding and caring, and has your highest good at heart.
A few weeks ago, I had a chance to learn a new modality, Trifold Dimensions. The Trifold, as I like to call it, is a hands on energy technique, based on the Access Consciousness Body foundations and helps with releasing shock and trauma from a person’s body, at a cellular level. And I have to say, I am actually really impressed with this technique.
Being a healer, who is certified in many different techniques, I have been witness to some awesome healings, clarity, and understanding that these techniques can bring. With the Trifold however, the healing is happening in a different and deeper way.
First off, let’s talk about what shock and trauma actually are. Most think that shock or trauma are caused when we go through catastrophic events, such as a death, car accident, abusive relationship, or divorce. However, trauma and shock can be the simpler things in life as well, such as getting an unexpected high bill, or as a child, being told no to that cookie before supper. Because we have different ways of reacting to situations based on our own emotional and mental abilities, a child being told no can be just as traumatic for them as an adult losing their job.
When this trauma happens, it creates a new energetic pattern within the body, that we hold on to. So say, you were the child who was told no to that cookie, and you threw a temper tantrum. Your mom, who is trying to make supper, yells, and states no again. This only upsets you more, and you start to cry harder. Your mom is unable to calm you down, nor does she have the patience for it. An energetic pattern has been set.
As you get older, every time you ask for something and are told ‘no’, you react the same way you did at 2. Because the feelings that you had were not addressed, and caused trauma at the time, you always revert back to being a 2 year old being told no.
Now this of course would be an extreme case, but shows an easy glimpse into how these shocks and traumas of our lives can begin to play out into patterns that we hold onto, and ruts that we can get stuck in.
During a Trifold Dimensions treatment, you are able to access these patterns and the trauma that is associated with them. During my own, I was able to see the patterns of my own anger that had stemmed from a child who was sexually abused. Every time I witness someone doing something that is against the law (whether a child sneaking a snack or breaking basic rules, a driver not following the rules of the road, etc) I am fuming angry. During the Trifold that I received, I realized that my anger stemmed from my molestor, who also didn’t follow the rules. Knowing this, I have been able to release a lot of the anger that had built up through the years, towards him, and anyone I viewed to be ‘just like him’.
For my clients, I have witnessed healing from sexual assault, abandonment, abuse, betrayal, and feeling unloved. The healing that is taking place is taking away years of hurt, anger, and confusion, and replacing it with understanding, love and compassion.
If you have been feeling stuck in a rut, stuck in the same energetic patterns, or just wanting to let that sh*t go, a Trifold Dimensions treatment may be exactly what you need.
It’s never too late to start over again… take a chance today to let that sh*t go.
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Spirit Guides. Animal Totems. Angels. Ascended Masters. In a world when one is often feeling alone, these helpers from the Spiritual world can help us to connect, understand and move forward with life’s toughest decisions and experiences. However, learning to listen to these messages, takes time, training and an awareness of an unseen world. Read on to learn how you can tell your Spirit Guides are trying to get your attention.
1. UNUSUAL AND UNFORGETTABLE ENCOUNTERS
I had written an article on my personal facebook page, and was recommended to send it to the local newspaper. I did, and heard back a few hours later that they wanted to publish it in the weekend edition of the paper. The editor wanted to know my background. I told him I was a stay at home mom. He said, ‘Okay, but what schooling do you have? You’re a great writer’. I told him again of my stay at home mom status. He replied again that I had a real talent and should consider a career in writing.
What he didn’t know was that I was working on my first book, and I was scared as hell at the thought of putting it out into the ‘real world’. Later that week, I was expressing my fears to my husband, as we were waiting for the bus. We got on the bus, and at the next stop, an alcohol-perfumed, homeless looking man stepped on. He sat behind me, and started to talk to me about the importance of writers in our world. He told me that everyone has a story to share, and that if, given the chance, everyone would write their story down, the world would be a better place, as we could each learn something from one another from our own experiences. I felt as though he was speaking to my soul, and yet, the stench of alcohol coming off of him made me second guess that he was a Spirit Helper. He stepped off the bus, singing American Pie, the whole way.
About 9 months later, I received my first copy of my first book in the mail. I ran out to the van to take it to my husband’s work and show him. As I turned on the van, American Pie started playing on the radio. I was swept back to the time when I was afraid of putting my words out there, and knew, then and there, that my alcohol-perfumed homeless looking man, was a Spiritual helper, whether he was aware or not.
Two years later, while at an I Can Do It Conference in Toronto, Doreen Virtue took the stage and started speaking about how angels, namely Archangel Michael, often appears as a homeless person, to seem more ‘human like’ to get the messages needed across, or to lend a helping hand. This reconfirmed my encounter, and again, I was elated with joy. She then spoke of how spiritual encounters with angels will often drop feathers to let you know they were an angel. As I left the building, two angel feathers dropped from the sky right in front of me.
2. SIGNS, SIGNS, EVERYWHERE THE SIGNS!
When you’re Guides are trying to connect with you, you will begin to see signs, everywhere you go. These signs can come in the way of numbers (think 11:11), words displayed at the right moment, a song on the radio, an animal encounter, or even when eavesdropping on a conversation in the mall. When they are trying to get a hold of you, they go through every means possible to get your attention.
3. A BLUNT KNOWING
Sometimes, when we are really needing it, our Guides will just tell us something, abruptly and bluntly.
When my youngest was three weeks old, my husband and I were driving home from a health show, with our youngest in the back. As we approached the intersection by our home, I heard a loud ‘STOP!’, even though the light was green. I stopped, and watched a woman zoom through her red light. Had I not stopped, I would have been hit, and most likely crushed, only a few houses from our home.
This happens quite often, where people recounting near death experiences have heard messages, or received visions that have deterred them from meeting their end. Listen when these moments happen.
4. GUT FEELINGS
Have you ever had that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something bad was going to happen? Or maybe, you just knew you were about to find the perfect job, or perfect mate. It may even be something pointless, like knowing who is calling, or who has knocked on the door. These gut feelings are often indicators from our Guides that we are on the right path.
When I was a child, we were at a community event at the local arena. As I sat at the table with my parents, I noticed a small child, younger than 3, playing on the cement steps. I got a feeling immediately that he was going to fall, and so I kept looking over at him. At one point, my mom asked me what I was looking at, and I told her, ‘The boy is going to fall’.
It was less than five minutes later, that he did fall, from the top step to the bottom. Because I had been watching, I was able to get there first and pick him up, covered in blood. His mother ran over shortly after, and got him the help he needed.
5. ARRANGING AND NUDGING
There was an article floating around on the internet a few year ago, about a bunch of people who woke up and had bad mornings~~ one overslept, one got a blister on their foot from their new shoes, one who’s child got sick, etc. These same people also escaped the horrific events of 9/11 because of these nuisances that they experienced.
When our Guides are trying to deter our path to something less painful, they will rearrange our lives. Perhaps you forgot your lunch, so you go back home. You may be grumpy (how inconvenient!), and yet, realize 5 minutes later while driving down the road, that had you not gone back, you may have been involved in the car accident that just happened. Perhaps you have plans to go out one night, and are unable to because you are feeling unwell. The phone rings later, and an old coworker has called to let you know of the perfect position.
We never know what’s happening in the Spirit world, or why our lives are being arranged the way that they are. Trust that your Guides are taking care of you, and giving you exactly what you need at the right time, even if it doesn’t always feels like it.
The more you connect in with your Guides, the easier the relationship becomes, and the easier it is to understand the messages that they are sending to you. When you are listening to your Guides, you will be able to see that life isn’t against you, you aren’t alone, and that things can really work in your favor if you’re willing for them to.
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In grade 6, my son did a science project on how emotions/words can affect fruit, therefore, also showing how emotions and words can affect our physical bodies. He cut up 6 apples, putting one half in one container, and one half in another container, and then labelled them with ‘I love you’, or ‘I hate you’; ‘Anger’, ‘Happiness’, etc. Within one week all of the apples browned a bit. But after 6 weeks, the apples with the ‘negative words/emotions’ had turned black with mold, soppy, and just plain gross. The apples that had positive words and emotions were the same light brown that they had been one week into the project.
This was an eye opener for him, as he was able to see how harboring negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings in our bodies can change the way we look, feel, and react to the world around us. (he got an A on the project, by the way).
The truth is, we are here, having a human experience, and a part of that experience, is to feel anger, sadness, resentment, hurt, disappointment, trial, pain, etc. It’s not all love and light~~ that’s what the Spirit world is for. And yet, quite often, when we are given experiences and people to help us feel these darker emotions, we want to run, and put our hand under the sand.
It is better for us, to feel these emotions, to experience these hardships, in order for us to grow. However, many of us, get so caught up in the ‘darkness’ aspect, that we forget about the light, the growth and the potential that each experience can bring us. Just as a lobster needs to hide itself under a rock to crack off it’s shell and grow a new one; just as a butterfly needs to crush it’s own wings out of the cocoon, so do we need to overcome the adversities of life, surrender, let it go, so that we can reach our greatest potential.
So how do you move through it? How do you move forward? How do you let go? Here are some simple ways to help you on your journey of letting go..
1. HONOR YOUR EMOTIONS.
We aren’t here to be all wishy washy, lovey dovey all of the time. It is important for us to feel a myriad of emotions. This is what makes us human. So if you’re feeling angry, allow yourself to feel angry. If you are feeling hurt, allow yourself to feel hurt. Just don’t stay there. Honour the emotions, and then move on.
2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR PART.
Everyone wants to blame the other guy for the way that they are feeling. However, we all have a choice to react to any situation, or person, in what ever way we choose. If someone is being a jerk, you can honour your anger and perhaps disappointment, and then move on. If you allow yourself to focus on the fact that the person is a jerk, you are giving them power over you. If you are feeling as though they are a jerk because you slept in today, didn’t get your coffee, had a fight with your husband, your kids drove you nuts, and he’s just the icing on the cake, take a step back, and see your responsibility in the behavior and then let it go.
3. BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF
Sometimes we can get so caught up in the idea of letting go, that we get frustrated with ourselves when we aren’t where we want to be yet. This is true for many who have gone through some life altering experiences~~ divorce, job loss, disease, death. We try to force ourselves to be happy again, without really allowing ourselves to feel the emotions in the mean time. Feel it. Live it. Allow yourself to be in the anger. To be in the sadness. To be in the regret. For as long as it takes. It may be a day, it may be a month. No one knows how long you need but you.
4. GET AN ENERGY TREATMENT DONE
Energy treatments help you to release at a subtle energy level (those parts of yourself that you can not see). By asking for help from a trusted healer/energy worker, you will give yourself a chance to relax, and let go of all that you are no longer needing to hold on to. Some of this may be obvious, while other stuff may hit you over the head with an Aha! moment. Some great energy techniques for letting go (that I personally love) are Reiki, Access Bars, IET, Emotion Code, and Meta Angel Therapy.
5. GET CREATIVE
When I was trying to let go of the hurt that I felt towards my abuser, I spent hours in creative energy, writing songs, poems, painting pictures, and writing letters. It was a great way for me to express the emotions that I wasn’t able to speak out loud. Give yourself some space to create. Paint, garden, draw, sing, dance, play an instrument, whatever makes you feel alive. Allow those emotions to pour out of you into a creative endeavor.
One of the easiest ways to let go of emotions, is to state simple affirmations to release the emotions that you are no longer wanting to hold onto. If you are having trouble with anger, you might say, ‘I have honoured my anger and now live in peace. If you are having trouble with letting go of a relationship, you might affirm, ‘I am a confident, loving woman who is open to meeting the love of my life now. I cherish my past relationships and the lessons they have taught me.
Letting go doesn’t need to be hard, hurtful, or a chore. When you honour your body and your emotions and what they are telling you, it makes the path to letting go a much more beautiful one. Be easy on yourself, and allow yourself to let go in your own time.
If you haven’t heard Justin Bieber’s latest song, Love Yourself, you may be living under a rock~ or perhaps you’re still hung up on his wayward ways a few years ago. Either way, do yourself a favor, and go check it out. (I love it, I am a Belieber, again!)
That being said, I keep wanting to write a spiritual parody of it, where rather than saying ‘You should go and love yourself’, I would sing ‘You should go and smudge yourself’, but I haven’t been able to get too creative with the rest of the song lyrics yet.
So what’s the deal with smudging anyway? Does it really work? And how do you know when you should, or shouldn’t, be doing it?
When I first learned of smudging, I was a bit naïve. In fact, I didn’t know a darn thing about it, however, I have some really great friends who were able to fill me in on this technique.
Smudging is for everyone~ you don’t need to be a spiritual guru, shaman, medicine woman, ghost whisperer, etc. The art of smudging, while spiritual, in that it releases negative energies, it also has scientific backing to rid your house of bacteria and germs.
Read further to learn the best times to smudge your home, and yourself, for optimal living!
When You’re Sick, You Should Smudge Yourself!
Sickness is the easiest way to know that you’re energy is off. When you are feeling under the weather, or someone in your home is, grab your smudge stick, light it, and walk around the house, releasing all bacteria, germs and negative energy that is not there for your highest good, or the highest good of your family. As I said before, smudging is known to help clear up harmful bacteria in the air.
When You’re Sad/Angry/Depressed, You Should Smudge Yourself!
Yes, smudging can be a mood enhancer! Whether you’re feeling down, angry, depressed, lonely, or tired, smudging can help to release the pent up emotions so that you can feel ‘normal’ again. This isn’t to say that it will take away depression and you can get get off your medication. Negative energy, whether our own, or someone else’s, can make very dominant feelings in and around us. When we smudge our homes, and ourselves, we are releasing these negative energies back into the Universe, so that we don’t have to hold on to them.
When There’s an Argument, You Should Smudge Yourself!
Anytime there is a lot of tension in the air, it’s always a good idea to smudge the area afterwards, to release any lingering emotions once and for all. Have you ever heard the expression, ‘You could have cut the tension in the room’? Our emotions and feelings carry energy, and when we have a release (like an argument) the energies are also released. So if you and your spouse have a heated argument, you are spewing anger in the room, possible hurt, and defeat. That’s some pretty nasty stuff. By smudging, it’s like doing a spiritual cleanse of the room.
Before and After Large Gatherings, You Should Smudge Yourself!
Anytime there’s large groups of people coming together, whether to celebrate, or mourn, you should smudge the areas that people will be in, or have been in. I remember one Thanksgiving we had family over, and I had smudged the house before hand. The day was wonderful. The following day though, everyone in my house was grumpy. It wasn’t until late afternoon that it dawned on me, I should probably smudge again, and so I did. Everyone’s bad moods diminished.
When You Move, You Should Smudge Yourself!
When you move into a new home, it’s important to smudge the home of the old tenants’ energies. For many, our homes are our safe havens, where we let everything out, and thus becomes an energy portal for what we are putting out there. When you move into someone else’s home, if you smudge, you are alleviating the previous tenant’s energy that was left stagnant, and making room for your own personal energy.
When Things are Wacky, You Should Smudge Yourself!
If you are open to spirit, you may be able to tell when things are feeling a bit wacky. I have had lights turn on by themselves, instruments play by themselves, chairs move, etc. When Spirit is around, it’s best to cleanse the space for your Highest Good so Spirit can only come through in a positive way for you and your loved ones.
Smudging takes mere minutes, and yet offers so many benefits to our lives. As long as your intention is good, there’s really no ‘wrong way’ to smudge. Have fun with it, make it a ritual, for you and your family.
Catherine Graham is an intuitive, healer, and owner of Journey Healers. Catherine is also a mom of 7, and one granddaughter. She has been working with Spirit since 2004. Any comments or questions can be emailed to her at Catherine@journeyhealers.com