The Dark Side of a ‘Healer’

Imagine this.  Your life has been disrupted.  You found out you have a disease.  Or there was a death in the family.  A divorce.  Childhood abuse is coming forward as an adult.  And you are looking for help.  You are vulnerable and afraid.  You need someone who will help you work through these emotions, someone who has a strength that you have forgotten you possess; someone you can trust, and tell your fears to.  Where do you go?  Who do you seek?

This is the first time I have talked about an experience I had last summer on a public forum.  I have spoken to girlfriends, and some healer colleagues of mine about my experience, and now I want to share it with you.

On a trip to the grocery store, a man waved at me from his vehicle.  I gave a half wave, not recognizing who he was and parked my vehicle.  As I walked into the store, he pulled up beside me, and asked if I was married.  I replied yes, and he said, yah, I knew it.  Can you give me a moment of your time.  I have some things from Spirit to share with you.

Being a healer, a psychic, I was kind of excited.  I was going to have my own little ‘Theresa Caputo’ moment, a reading from a perfect stranger.  I followed him to his car.  He was a good looking man~~ dressed in white spiritual garb (flowing clothes) with a rose quartz around his neck.  More crystals hung from his sun visor, and he had a guitar in his front seat.  He told me he was on his way back home after doing a spiritual retreat.

Claiming that he didn’t have enough room in his own vehicle, he asked if we could move to my vehicle so he could give me a reading.  A few alarms went off in my head, but I thought what could possibly go wrong?  He is a spiritual man, as I am a spiritual woman.

When we got into my vehicle, he started telling me some personal stuff about my relationship with my husband.  He was quite accurate, and I found myself relaxing, thinking ‘this is good’.  He then brought up my trust issues.   They stem from childhood sexual abuse, and reoccurring patterns that have come into adulthood.

He claimed that the only way for me to trust, would be to touch him in the most intimate place a man has.  I paused for a second and then put my hand on his heart chakra.  This annoyed him, and he said again, ‘If you want to learn to trust, you MUST touch me in the most intimate place a man has’.  He pointed to his crotch.  I told him ‘No’.  After some more pressure, and my continually saying ‘No’, he asked me ‘Why I didn’t want to move forward through my trust issues’.

I told him if my Guides wanted me to learn my lesson, they would find another way to bring the lesson forward to me.  And then asked him to get out of the vehicle.  He slammed his fist into the dashboard and got out.

I breathed a sigh of relief… I was safe, and the situation could have been worst than what it was.

Why am I bringing this up?

Because this could have been you.  Or anyone, really.  And you may not have been strong enough to say no.  I know I wasn’t strong enough to walk away when he first approached me.  And I know that I am not the first woman to fall prey to a ‘spiritual man’ claiming to be able to ‘heal’ through sexual measures.

This is the dark side of the healer.  The one who represents themselves as being able to help others, but only preys on their vulnerabilities.  The ones who tell you they will cure your cancer for X amount of dollars.  The ones who say that they have gifts that no one else does, and so you must perform XYZ with them, in order to be healed of all of your problems.

While healing energy treatments can play an important role in one’s self care, for physical, spiritual and emotional wellness, it is not the cure.  Healing comes from within, and a healer is only there to ‘facilitate the healing’, meaning the energy is flowing through them, into you (through hands-on energy transfer, on a fully clothed body).  Everyone has their own healing abilities within them, and therefore, none of us ‘need’ anyone to ‘heal’ us, regardless of what some may claim.

Just as there is a balance of light and dark in the skies, and within ourselves, so too, is there light and dark among the healing world.

A ‘true healer’ will never pressure you to go further than you want to go.  They want to help you, in a way that is comfortable to you.  They may give you suggestions on healing treatments to try, different ideas to think about, etc. BUT they will leave the ball in your court as to how much they are willing to do.  Yes, they will ask to be paid for their time, however, most will work with you if you can’t afford their services.  They may also suggest other healers in your area that would be able to help with your issues, to give you more choices.

A ‘dark healer’ will pressure you, even when you get uncomfortable.  They may ask for large sums of money to perform healing on you, that they claim, only they can do.  They may get angry or berate you if you choose not to go through with their services, or they may pressure you to believe they are the only choice.

If you are looking for a healer, for what ever you are going through, I ask you (perhaps beg you) to follow your heart and your intuition to guide you to the perfect fit for you; to find a healer who is compassionate, understanding and caring, and has your highest good at heart.

Until next time,

xoCatherine

For more information on the healing services that I provide, please visit my website at http://www.journeyhealers.com

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Catherine Graham is an intuitive, healer, and owner of Journey Healers. Catherine is also a mom of 7, and one granddaughter. She has been working with Spirit since 2004. Any comments or questions can be emailed to her at Catherine@journeyhealers.com

 

 

 

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You Should Go and Smudge Yourself

If you haven’t heard Justin Bieber’s latest song, Love Yourself, you may be living under a rock~ or perhaps you’re still hung up on his wayward ways a few years ago.  Either way, do yourself a favor, and go check it out.  (I love it, I am a Belieber, again!)

That being said, I keep wanting to write a spiritual parody of it, where rather than saying ‘You should go and love yourself’, I would sing ‘You should go and smudge yourself’, but I haven’t been able to get too creative with the rest of the song lyrics yet.

So what’s the deal with smudging anyway?  Does it really work?  And how do you know when you should, or shouldn’t, be doing it?

When I first learned of smudging, I was a bit naïve.  In fact, I didn’t know a darn thing about it, however, I have some really great friends who were able to fill me in on this technique.

Smudging is for everyone~ you don’t need to be a spiritual guru, shaman, medicine woman, ghost whisperer, etc.  The art of smudging, while spiritual, in that it releases negative energies, it also has scientific backing to rid your house of bacteria and germs.

Read further to learn the best times to smudge your home, and yourself, for optimal living!

When You’re Sick, You Should Smudge Yourself!

Sickness is the easiest way to know that you’re energy is off.  When you are feeling under the weather, or someone in your home is, grab your smudge stick, light it, and walk around the house, releasing all bacteria, germs and negative energy that is not there for your highest good, or the highest good of your family.  As I said before, smudging is known to help clear up harmful bacteria in the air.

When You’re Sad/Angry/Depressed, You Should Smudge Yourself!

Yes, smudging can be a mood enhancer!  Whether you’re feeling down, angry, depressed, lonely, or tired, smudging can help to release the pent up emotions so that you can feel ‘normal’ again.  This isn’t to say that it will take away depression and you can get get off your medication.  Negative energy, whether our own, or someone else’s, can make very dominant feelings in and around us.  When we smudge our homes, and ourselves, we are releasing these negative energies back into the Universe, so that we don’t have to hold on to them.

When There’s an Argument, You Should Smudge Yourself!

Anytime there is a lot of tension in the air, it’s always a good idea to smudge the area afterwards, to release any lingering emotions once and for all.   Have you ever heard the expression, ‘You could have cut the tension in the room’?  Our emotions and feelings carry energy, and when we have a release (like an argument) the energies are also released.  So if you and your spouse have a heated argument, you are spewing anger in the room, possible hurt, and defeat.  That’s some pretty nasty stuff.  By smudging, it’s like doing a spiritual cleanse of the room.

Before and After Large Gatherings, You Should Smudge Yourself!

Anytime there’s large groups of people coming together, whether to celebrate, or mourn, you should smudge the areas that people will be in, or have been in.  I remember one Thanksgiving we had family over, and I had smudged the house before hand.  The day was wonderful.  The following day though, everyone in my house was grumpy.  It wasn’t until late afternoon that it dawned on me, I should probably smudge again, and so I did.  Everyone’s bad moods diminished. 

When You Move, You Should Smudge Yourself!

When you move into a new home, it’s important to smudge the home of the old tenants’ energies.  For many, our homes are our safe havens, where we let everything out, and thus becomes an energy portal for what we are putting out there.  When you move into someone else’s home, if you smudge, you are alleviating the previous tenant’s energy that was left stagnant, and making room for your own personal energy.

When Things are Wacky, You Should Smudge Yourself!

If you are open to spirit, you may be able to tell when things are feeling a bit wacky.  I have had lights turn on by themselves, instruments play by themselves, chairs move, etc.  When Spirit is around, it’s best to cleanse the space for your Highest Good so Spirit can only come through in a positive way for you and your loved ones. 

 

Smudging takes mere minutes, and yet offers so many benefits to our lives.  As long as your intention is good, there’s really no ‘wrong way’ to smudge.  Have fun with it, make it a ritual, for you and your family.

 

Until next time,

xoCatherine

 

Catherine is an intuitive healer, and wellpreneur at her business, Journey Healers.  She is the mother of 7, and Mimayo of one granddaughter.  To connect with her, you can email Catherine@journeyhealers.com, or visit her website http://www.journeyhealers.com