Taking Care of You This Holiday Season

As we enter into the holiday season, it can be easy to have a list a mile long of all of the things that you have to do…. buy gifts, wrap presents, visit family, clean the house, go here and there for special events~~ but do you have a space on your to-do list, for taking care of you?  With the extra stress of the holidays, it’s important that you take some time out for yourself, to focus on what it is your body needs.  Think you don’t have time?  Think again!  Here’s 7 strategies so you can enhance your self-care regimen at home! 

  1. Delegate. 

No one is expecting you to do everything.  (Except you!)  Hand out tasks to others for them to complete, so that you have that bit of extra time on your hands.  Get your husband to wrap the gifts,  older kids to do baking, younger kids to fill out Christmas cards.  You don’t have to do everything.  Make a list of everything that needs to be done, and then assign tasks to those in your family that feel capable (note I didn’t say, that you feel are capable) of getting the task done.  And don’t stress that it’s not the way you want it to be done!

2. Meditate

Even 5 minutes a day can be enough to bring some peaceful calm into the hectic-ness of the season.  Give yourself that 5 minute break to center your mind and heart, and release that which is no longer serving you.  Can’t get your mind to quieten down?  Try a guided meditation instead.  There are tons available on youtube for free!

3. Honour. 

Honour your emotions.  The holidays can be tough.  They bring up memories of loved ones who are no longer with us, they bring up old family issues and dysfunctions, they bring up loneliness of holiday seasons past.  Don’t get pulled into the notion that you need to be a cheery elf; rather take some time to sit with your emotions, honour them and then move forward.  When we try to repress them, they can grow bigger and bigger.  By honouring them, you are giving yourself a way to release them.

4. Get a treatment. 

De-stress by booking a healing treatment with an energy practitioner in your area.  Massage, Reiki, reflexology, Access Bars, and IET are all great ways to relax and de-stress over the holiday.  Click here to book a session with Catherine.

5. Have a break. 

Book some time off to grab coffee with a friend, schedule in a lunch, or simply just be together.  Friends can help to bring laughter into your life, when it feels like everything else is too much.

6. Protect yourself. 

All too often, we pick up on the energies of people around us.  If others are feeling holiday stress, it can be easy to pick up on that energy, and feel as though it is our own.  Protect yourself from picking up this energy by putting a shield around you (imagine a giant disco ball that reflects the energy back to the person, use the image of a filter around you that filters out any negativity).  You can also ask yourself, ‘Does this belong to me?’ If your immediate thought is no, simply ask that it be returned to sender.

7. Do Something You Love

I am a bath lover.  When I am feeling stressed, there is nothing like a long soak in the tub to get me back to feeling like myself.  Find one thing you love and do that, whether it be reading, baking, painting, singing, dancing or relaxing in the tub.  By giving yourself a ‘joy moment’ you are filling up your energy reserves, so that you have more to give.

Until next time,

 

xoCatherine

 

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Catherine Graham is an intuitive, healer, and owner of Journey Healers. Catherine is also a mom of 7, and one granddaughter. She has been working with Spirit since 2004. Any comments or questions can be emailed to her at Catherine@journeyhealers.com

 

The Art of Letting Go

In grade 6, my son did a science project on how emotions/words can affect fruit, therefore, also showing how emotions and words can affect our physical bodies.  He cut up 6 apples, putting one half in one container, and one half in another container, and then labelled them with ‘I love you’, or ‘I hate you’; ‘Anger’, ‘Happiness’, etc.  Within one week all of the apples browned a bit.  But after 6 weeks, the apples with the ‘negative words/emotions’ had turned black with mold, soppy, and just plain gross.  The apples that had positive words and emotions were the same light brown that they had been one week into the project.

This was an eye opener for him, as he was able to see how harboring negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings in our bodies can change the way we look, feel, and react to the world around us.  (he got an A on the project, by the way).

The truth is, we are here, having a human experience, and a part of that experience, is to feel anger, sadness, resentment, hurt, disappointment, trial, pain, etc.  It’s not all love and light~~ that’s what the Spirit world is for.  And yet, quite often, when we are given experiences and people to help us feel these darker emotions, we want to run, and put our hand under the sand.

It is better for us, to feel these emotions, to experience these hardships, in order for us to grow.  However, many of us, get so caught up in the ‘darkness’ aspect, that we forget about the light, the growth and the potential that each experience can bring us.   Just as a lobster needs to hide itself under a rock to crack off it’s shell and grow a new one; just as a butterfly needs to crush it’s own wings out of the cocoon, so do we need to overcome the adversities of life, surrender, let it go, so that we can reach our greatest potential.

So how do you move through it?  How do you move forward?  How do you let go?  Here are some simple ways to help you on your journey of letting go..

 

1.  HONOR YOUR EMOTIONS.

We aren’t here to be all wishy washy, lovey dovey all of the time.  It is important for us to feel a myriad of emotions.  This is what makes us human.  So if you’re feeling angry, allow yourself to feel angry.  If you are feeling hurt, allow yourself to feel hurt.  Just don’t stay there.  Honour the emotions, and then move on.

2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR PART.

Everyone wants to blame the other guy for the way that they are feeling.  However, we all have a choice to react to any situation, or person, in what ever way we choose.  If someone is being a jerk, you can honour your anger and perhaps disappointment, and then move on.  If you allow yourself to focus on the fact that the person is a jerk, you are giving them power over you.  If you are feeling as though they are a jerk because you slept in today, didn’t get your coffee, had a fight with your husband, your kids drove you nuts, and he’s just the icing on the cake, take a step back, and see your responsibility in the behavior and then let it go.

3. BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF

Sometimes we can get so caught up in the idea of letting go, that we get frustrated with ourselves when we aren’t where we want to be yet.  This is true for many who have gone through some life altering experiences~~ divorce, job loss, disease, death.  We try to force ourselves to be happy again, without really allowing ourselves to feel the emotions in the mean time.  Feel it.  Live it.  Allow yourself to be in the anger.  To be in the sadness.  To be in the regret.  For as long as it takes.  It may be a day, it may be a month.  No one knows how long you need but you. 

4.  GET AN ENERGY TREATMENT DONE

Energy treatments help you to release at a subtle energy level (those parts of yourself that you can not see).  By asking for help from a trusted healer/energy worker, you will give yourself a chance to relax, and let go of all that you are no longer needing to hold on to.  Some of this may be obvious, while other stuff may hit you over the head with an Aha! moment.  Some great energy techniques for letting go (that I personally love) are Reiki, Access Bars, IET, Emotion Code, and Meta Angel Therapy. 

5. GET CREATIVE

When I was trying to let go of the hurt that I felt towards my abuser, I spent hours in creative energy, writing songs, poems, painting pictures, and writing letters.  It was a great way for me to express the emotions that I wasn’t able to speak out loud.  Give yourself some space to create.  Paint, garden, draw, sing, dance, play an instrument, whatever makes you feel alive.  Allow those emotions to pour out of you into a creative endeavor.

6. AFFIRM!

One of the easiest ways to let go of emotions, is to state simple affirmations to release the emotions that you are no longer wanting to hold onto.  If you are having trouble with anger, you might say, ‘I have honoured my anger and now live in peace.  If you are having trouble with letting go of a relationship, you might affirm, ‘I am a confident, loving woman who is open to meeting the love of my life now.  I cherish my past relationships and the lessons they have taught me.

 

Letting go doesn’t need to be hard, hurtful, or a chore.  When you honour your body and your emotions and what they are telling you, it makes the path to letting go a much more beautiful one.  Be easy on yourself, and allow yourself to let go in your own time.

 

Until next time,

xoCatherineskyline