In grade 6, my son did a science project on how emotions/words can affect fruit, therefore, also showing how emotions and words can affect our physical bodies. He cut up 6 apples, putting one half in one container, and one half in another container, and then labelled them with ‘I love you’, or ‘I hate you’; ‘Anger’, ‘Happiness’, etc. Within one week all of the apples browned a bit. But after 6 weeks, the apples with the ‘negative words/emotions’ had turned black with mold, soppy, and just plain gross. The apples that had positive words and emotions were the same light brown that they had been one week into the project.
This was an eye opener for him, as he was able to see how harboring negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings in our bodies can change the way we look, feel, and react to the world around us. (he got an A on the project, by the way).
The truth is, we are here, having a human experience, and a part of that experience, is to feel anger, sadness, resentment, hurt, disappointment, trial, pain, etc. It’s not all love and light~~ that’s what the Spirit world is for. And yet, quite often, when we are given experiences and people to help us feel these darker emotions, we want to run, and put our hand under the sand.
It is better for us, to feel these emotions, to experience these hardships, in order for us to grow. However, many of us, get so caught up in the ‘darkness’ aspect, that we forget about the light, the growth and the potential that each experience can bring us. Just as a lobster needs to hide itself under a rock to crack off it’s shell and grow a new one; just as a butterfly needs to crush it’s own wings out of the cocoon, so do we need to overcome the adversities of life, surrender, let it go, so that we can reach our greatest potential.
So how do you move through it? How do you move forward? How do you let go? Here are some simple ways to help you on your journey of letting go..
1. HONOR YOUR EMOTIONS.
We aren’t here to be all wishy washy, lovey dovey all of the time. It is important for us to feel a myriad of emotions. This is what makes us human. So if you’re feeling angry, allow yourself to feel angry. If you are feeling hurt, allow yourself to feel hurt. Just don’t stay there. Honour the emotions, and then move on.
2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR PART.
Everyone wants to blame the other guy for the way that they are feeling. However, we all have a choice to react to any situation, or person, in what ever way we choose. If someone is being a jerk, you can honour your anger and perhaps disappointment, and then move on. If you allow yourself to focus on the fact that the person is a jerk, you are giving them power over you. If you are feeling as though they are a jerk because you slept in today, didn’t get your coffee, had a fight with your husband, your kids drove you nuts, and he’s just the icing on the cake, take a step back, and see your responsibility in the behavior and then let it go.
3. BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF
Sometimes we can get so caught up in the idea of letting go, that we get frustrated with ourselves when we aren’t where we want to be yet. This is true for many who have gone through some life altering experiences~~ divorce, job loss, disease, death. We try to force ourselves to be happy again, without really allowing ourselves to feel the emotions in the mean time. Feel it. Live it. Allow yourself to be in the anger. To be in the sadness. To be in the regret. For as long as it takes. It may be a day, it may be a month. No one knows how long you need but you.
4. GET AN ENERGY TREATMENT DONE
Energy treatments help you to release at a subtle energy level (those parts of yourself that you can not see). By asking for help from a trusted healer/energy worker, you will give yourself a chance to relax, and let go of all that you are no longer needing to hold on to. Some of this may be obvious, while other stuff may hit you over the head with an Aha! moment. Some great energy techniques for letting go (that I personally love) are Reiki, Access Bars, IET, Emotion Code, and Meta Angel Therapy.
5. GET CREATIVE
When I was trying to let go of the hurt that I felt towards my abuser, I spent hours in creative energy, writing songs, poems, painting pictures, and writing letters. It was a great way for me to express the emotions that I wasn’t able to speak out loud. Give yourself some space to create. Paint, garden, draw, sing, dance, play an instrument, whatever makes you feel alive. Allow those emotions to pour out of you into a creative endeavor.
One of the easiest ways to let go of emotions, is to state simple affirmations to release the emotions that you are no longer wanting to hold onto. If you are having trouble with anger, you might say, ‘I have honoured my anger and now live in peace. If you are having trouble with letting go of a relationship, you might affirm, ‘I am a confident, loving woman who is open to meeting the love of my life now. I cherish my past relationships and the lessons they have taught me.
Letting go doesn’t need to be hard, hurtful, or a chore. When you honour your body and your emotions and what they are telling you, it makes the path to letting go a much more beautiful one. Be easy on yourself, and allow yourself to let go in your own time.
Until next time,